Don’t set too high of expectations for yourself or others… If you do, you will often find yourself sorely disappointed.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mean it as don’t set goals or standards. Just don’t set them so high that it’s almost impossible to reach.
I’ve been told that I hold myself to a very high standard, and I take into account everything others say about me to heart. Every time I don’t meet the expectations people have placed upon me, I feel like a failure. It’s not a nice feeling to have, in fact, it’s probably a very detrimental emotion for my well-being. And even though I know these standards are too high, it doesn’t stop me from having them. That’s the hard part about lowering expectations, you know you should do it, but it’s hard to change your ways.
So here are some tips that I think may be helpful:
- Make small goals, reachable ones. Like if you’re in school–study for two hours or so a day, if you’re not particularly motivated.
- Go into things without assuming anything. Don’t prepare for the worst, but don’t expect the best either.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself. If you mess up, or don’t meet a goal you made, don’t beat yourself up about it. It happens to the best of us.
Reading this, you’re probably thinking: Duh! This stuff is so obvious. But as obvious as it is, we often forget it in our lives, and we end up making the mistakes that seem so easy and obvious to avoid. Maybe it’ll help that someone else is telling you, or if you see it everywhere, all the time. Eventually it will stick in your head, and maybe you’ll even start taking steps to improve.