One of my friends is starting to become overwhelmed with the pressure of figuring out what she wants to do with her life. I spoke to her yesterday, and she told me she would be transferring colleges her last semester in order to pursue an undergraduate degree in nutrition, instead of her current major (psychology). However, her new decision is giving her anxiety and she’s been stressing out over whether or not it is the right decision, whether or not it is reasonable to extend her undergraduate education for at least another year when she could be done.
I tried to be a good friend and told her that if it is what she wants to do, she should go for it. That other people’s expectations or reactions to her delaying her graduation does not matter as long as she is content. Furthermore, I told her that people don’t expect her to know what she wants to do. We have our entire lives to figure that out. In fact, some of my professors didn’t know what they wanted to study or their career path until years into their previous career.
So my advice to any of you who may be having this same issue: it’s okay to be afraid of what you don’t know, it’s fine not to have a plan, and it is certainly not the end of the world if you haven’t decided what you want to do with your life.
I believe that at one point or another people will have that unshakable fear of the unknown–the future, and that’s absolutely normal.