Forgiving someone doesn’t mean forgetting what they’ve done, but accepting it as is and moving on from the moment. Forgiveness is a gift to someone else and yourself.
I have a hard time forgiving people. In arguments, I will bring up past wrongdoings into the equation, things that should be left out completely because of its irrelevance to the situation at hand.
I like to believe that I forgive people, but when I lie in bed thinking about how people have wronged me, I realize that I didn’t forgive them at all. Maybe I take any transgression as personal, any thing that someone did that may have hurt me, I see as a direct attack.
Sometimes I’m easily triggered by things, so if someone unknowingly says something that offends me, I may automatically process whatever he or she said as a personal attack aimed toward me.
As I grow older, into my own person, I am trying to really achieve a state where I can truly forgive people, and truly love because Love and Forgiveness goes hand in hand.
I think that everyone deserves an infinite amount of chances, and maybe that’s what makes me so susceptible to these issues, but I honestly and truly believe that people are able to change. And by forgiving someone, you may be a catalyst for his or her transformation.